For me or for you?

Good morning all

Living some 2 and a bit hours from where my parents and sister and her family live I and my wife are currently involved in supporting my family while they support my mother. Sounds a bit complicated but it’s not really.

The reason I mention this is that I found myself in the little book of James in Scripture and although not directly linked to work , for me, this thought can easily be transferred anywhere – including work.

James chapter 3 verse 14 says “But if you have bitter envy and self-seeking in your hearts, do not boast and lie against the truth”.

When considering “self-seeking” I recently read that a speaker once said, “Young people feel like they have to ‘find themselves,’ so they search this and that, here and there, all in an effort to ‘find themselves.’ So, what if you spend all this time and energy to find yourself, and in the end you discover nobody’s home?”

Ha ha! Humorous but so true! The loneliest people on the planet are those focused on themselves. If I am brutally honest in recalling the lonelier times of my life, I was lonely mostly because I was focused too much on myself. We learn to recognize self-focused people by their constant talking about themselves, their achievements, their experiences, their things, their opinions. They drone on endlessly.

One author writes, “People sometimes talk about themselves because there is nothing else rattling around in their heads.” Such people usually have a better way of doing almost everything, yet one often wonders why they are not more successful in life. They ache to express an opinion and believe in their abilities so wholeheartedly that they must be restrained from taking charge. We learn that, when around them, a person’s value is significant only in regard to their personal plans, and they will seldom alter their course to fit another in.

My old school motto was “Not for yourselves, but others”

Test: How much of our needs and desires fills our agenda each day? Conversely, how much room do we make for others? I have said in the past to my shame with pride, “I usually don’t do anything I don’t want to do.” I meant that I was master of my choices and in control of my life, but I was actually saying, “My plans, ideas, and schedule are far more important than anyone else’s.” Not sure this is the way of Christ are you?

Have a great week

Mark

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